There’s an awesome scripture that promises:  “He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children and the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.” ~ Malachi 4:6

This scripture is a promise from the Lord. God desires us to be in harmony with our families. If we are not, we won’t have the capacity to reveal to them the peace love they  need   from our hearts.  Why is the heart the center of this passage? The meaning of the heart when explored further, meant: a place of ‘understanding, determination, passion and courage; the seat of the soul (our mind, will and emotions.)’ Interesting how all that pertains to our heart rests with our understanding and compassion.  Thusly, according to this passage of scripture, our fathers  ( and mothers) can influence all these parts of our lives and possibly even ‘unknowingly’ – by simply being present or absent in our lives. Our hearts are connected to our families as we seek out this passion in life. God has a plan for us, yet we have to fit into His plans, in order to fulfill our purpose.

When God sends out this promise – He wants children and fathers to allow their hearts to dispense the love that makes wrongs right, to minister justly unto our hearts of injury and wrong unto done us in times past; and to seek to restore that which will mend and heal us.

What encourages these actions of peace and resolve? Repentance. Prayers. Commitment. Interest. Pleasure. Praise. Contentment. Order. Friendship. Respect. Worthiness. There are so many actions of peace. And they all can be modeled.

What are the actions of unrest? Discord. Futility. Neglect. Ignorance. Mistrust. Violence. Anger. Detestableness. Revenge. Spitefulness. Alienation. Quarrelsomeness. These can be modeled as well.

Deuteronomy 30:17-20 puts it simply: “But if your heart turns away and you refuse to listen, and if you are drawn away to serve and worship other gods, then I warn you now that you will certainly be destroyed… Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!”

This is  a passage of direction about our choices. You can make the choice by loving the Lord, obeying him, and committing yourself firmly to him and your choices will be forever effected towards good. This is the key to your life.

I once experienced the call of a child’s heart to her father. I was employed as a school counselor and a troubled mother brought her beautiful little girl to my office before school because she could not get her to stop crying. Before me stood a little girl of six yrs. with a face full of tears — who simply wanted her Daddy’s love. She came to school crying and sobbing… because she was in pain – and she couldn’t see her Daddy. Her mom explained…”I haven’t seen him, ..I don’t know where He is…I cannot get him or make him come to see her!” She explained her father used to come around and she was missing him badly and longing for him and had not seen him in quite some time. It was hard to help her. I didn’t know what to do… so I sat quietly with her and just prayed to myself, and for her. As she cried and exclaimed: “I want my daddy!” and sobbed. I pondered in my soul: ‘What makes a child heart hurt so badly when her father is absent? And now again…I wonder… had this father’s heart not been turned towards his child?? What prevented it?’ I really had no answers. All I knew was this –  her heart was turned immensely in that moment towards her father’s heart. And I was there to feel her pain. Her grief. Her distanced hope and pray for her yearning. I am sure many mothers and even some fathers, have felt this for their children.

Like this little sister…I recall several times in my life when my father’s influence over my life –was so crucial. I notice sometimes, even as an adult,  that I tend to gravitate towards my dad when making a really BIG decision. I don’t believe this is a coincidence. I believe it’s a spiritual plea of God’s divine order. I have noticed the order of God’s plan is that we yearn for our families to be in harmony. I still acknowledge the power of my dad to influence my decisions, even as an adult. Many of us don’t have the grace (goodness) provided in having such a father (or mother) to help influence our decisions, nor do we want them to.

If that’s you… please take the time to consider the love of your Heavenly Father. He has adopted us into His plan. And He makes all things new. He doesn’t make mistakes. Ask Him to come into your heart and help you take to take heed to His ways so you are blessed with His wisdom, His understanding today, and His love — and most of all – His forgiveness.

Copyright 2009 – Jennifer Owens ~All right reserved.

Jennifer is an avid  writer, author, child advocate and therapist whose spiritual blog can be found at